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"How the Media Failed Women in 2013," courtesy of Miss Representation. This is mind-boggling and you must watch it right now.
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Sasha Grey has a lot of guts.
And I don’t know how she does it sometimes. If you see just 1/100th of the press that’s done on her, you’ll see that most of it is her defending herself from journalists/moms/talking heads. And seeing this video makes me realize two things:
1. Whoopi Goldberg is the only one there that gets it.
2. As a culture we actively work to dehumanize and oppress people (mostly women) who work in the adult entertainment industry.
This is sexism against women in its most clever and deceptive form—one that is championed by women in supposed support of women. In other words, our culture has pitted women against each other and the net effect is that women continue to stay small in rigid stereotypes while sexism goes unchecked. It’s too hard to think that women and porn can peacefully co-exist. It’s too hard to think that there is the idea of choice in porn or that one can view porn as a host for many complicated issues (both good and bad).
This was an ambush on The View. Instead of talking about the real issue here (why are people so upset about Sasha reading to kids and what does this say about our society?) they made the issue a personal one (not in a good way) under the guise of being a moral one. They made it personal in several ways:
1. Sheri Shepherd, probably the least intelligent person to be a member of The View, asking how she’s going to explain to her son what a pornstar is. If you as a parent can’t create a sensitive and age-appropriate answer, you are unfit to be a parent. Any parent with any parenting ability should be able to explain what a dentist does, what a pornstar does, or what a police-officer does.
2. Barbara Walters questioning why Sasha would even want to do this in the first place? Why not? What’s wrong with volunteering for a local school? If you understand the simple concept that says: more affluent the area=the more parental involvement and volunteering where the less affluent the area=the less parental involvement and volunteering, you should thank her for wanting to donate her time. What’s more upsetting is that the question suggests that someone like her shouldn’t want to volunteer. It’s much easier to stereotype a pornstar or former pornstar as some vapid, wretch of a person with no sense of community or moral compass. But if you’re a good parent or a good educator, you show your kids honesty and integrity. You don’t have to play a DVD of Sasha Grey’s adult films but you can (if it comes up) have a conversation that is fitting: “Sasha is a TV actress but she’s also acted in adult movies where you have to be 18 or sometimes 21 and older to watch. These movies are for adults only.” What’s an adult movie? A kid might ask. “An adult movie is a movie made for adults by adults. You know how there are cartoons and shows where it’s for kids and adults really don’t watch those? There are adult movies where some adults watch those and kids don’t watch those.” It’s not that hard and that took all of 2 minutes to think of.
3. Barbara saying that “being a pornstar isn’t something you hope your children aspire to be.” Sasha wasn’t forced into sex-trafficking at the age of 5. That’s something you don’t hope for your children. Someone choosing to be an adult entertainer is, to make this exhausted argument again, a choice. A lot of parents don’t want their kids to be in the military fighting a war that they don’t believe in or is possibly breaking international law. If a school wanted to have a soldier come in to read to the kids, what’s the harm? They’re not there to talk about covert operations in Kabul or the overspending of the military or the killing of innocent Iraqi civilians. The point of having people of all walks come in to read is to show that everyone loves to read. Reading is important. No matter what job you have, you will read. As the NBA used to say, “Reading is Fundamental.”
4. Whoopi shares a personal story about being a child growing up next to pornstars. This is perhaps the only sane moment in the interview because instead of heaping on women who do porn=evil garbage, she made it personal. Whoopi is saying these people are people. What a concept.
5. And finally, Barbara chiming in as the old grandmother asking “what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like that?” Before this, she questions why Sasha even entered the business if she believes in education and likes working with kid. I can’t believe this came out of Barbara’s mouth. We’re talking about a woman who pioneered the news industry for women. This question isn’t really a question. It’s more of a setup to try and get Sasha to break down and repent for all of her supposed faults. Actually, the entire interview has this tone. It’s difficult for society to accept that a woman might be in the industry and simultaneously be a good, clear thinking person. It’s easier to demonize someone and say that, eventually, they’ll wake up and realize how wrong their actions were. It’s a bully tactic that is based on the oppression of women: you don’t know what you were doing and you don’t have a mind of your own. It’s like an episode of Mad Men all over again. It just looks like it’s not oppression because it’s women doing it. It’s obvious that Barbara and co. don’t like the porn industry (that’s fine, not everyone has to) but their attitude informs their criticism of Sasha. You can criticize the industry, fine. But when you fail to see the person, the woman, behind it what you really do is create distance and isolation between people. Like Whoopi said, she lived next to and got to know pornstars when she was a kid. When you do that and have actual conversations with them, then you can create closeness and understanding.
Sasha has a lot of guts. It’s just unfortunate that one has to have so much guts and take so much shit to be truly heard as a person.
I have an idea son, why don’t we drive to the nearest cliff and see if the law of gravity applies to you.
A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?❞
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Guys. You need to read this.
only thing I would add is that this is all true but we don’t per se need to coddle men’s feelings in advocating feminism because these are more side effects of feminism u feel.
Also for the one about fighting and industrial accidents it shouldn’t be so much that women are seeking equal access to these but idk for me ideally feminism should take on a Marxian and pacificist perspective in rejecting labor inequality and war/imperialism, for everyone
actual diary entry from when i was in 5th grade oh my god
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